How I’m Learning to Break the Sugar Craving Cycle (One Small Win at a Time)
The night I told my mom’s jalebi, “I’ll remember you tomorrow.”
Every time I visit my parents, my mom has a ritual. Around 10 p.m., she appears with something sweet: a bowl of ice cream, a Cadbury bar, maybe a plate of jalebi. Not just for me, but for everyone.
And if I say I’m full, she pouts.
She insists, “It’s just a little, it won’t hurt you.”
Most nights, I eat it.
Not out of hunger.
Not out of desire.
But because saying no feels like I’m rejecting her love.
The cycle repeats. And every time, I feel like I’ve failed.
Especially when I’m lying awake at 4am feeling uncomfortable. More on that in a later post!
Trying Something New
But last time, I tried something different.
Instead of polishing off the bowl of sweets, I took two bites and stopped.
Instead of saying “no” outright, I said:
“Can I take this home? I want to enjoy it tomorrow.”
My mom smiled, and she wrapped it up for me and added it to the stack of Tupperware containers she had already filled for me to take home!
And I felt, for the first time in years, that I had shifted the pattern without guilt, without shame.
Why This Matters
Breaking the sugar craving cycle isn’t about quitting sugar forever.
It isn’t about being “good” or hitting 21 days (the number of days they say it takes to break a habit) without chocolate.
It’s about finding tiny moments of control inside a system that feels stacked against us:
Our bodies are wired for quick energy.
Our culture is wired for hospitality through food.
Our mind is wired for shame.
Every small shift…two bites instead of ten, tomorrow instead of tonight…tells my brain: I have a choice.
What I’m Learning
Small wins add up. You don’t need perfection. You need progress.
Boundaries can be kind. Saying “I’ll eat it tomorrow” honors love without self-sabotage.
Cravings are information, not weakness. Sometimes I eat the sweets. Sometimes I don’t. Either way, I no longer attach shame to it.
Why I’m Sharing This
I don’t have it all figured out. I still give in more than I’d like.
But every time I practice one of these small wins, I feel a little lighter.
A little stronger. A little freer.
And I think that’s what real progress looks like.
What’s your story with sugar?
If you’ve ever felt trapped in the cycle of craving, caving, and shaming yourself—I’m writing this for you.
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That jalebi looks really delicious.
Which I think is kind of the point of your post.